Emotional Health – Changing How You React

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How many times have you had an argument with someone over the same thing, again and again, wishing the other person would change? Have you considered that, perhaps, they have wondered the same thing about you? Our emotional health is reliant on a few things… a good foundation that equips us with rules or ideas that guide us like a lamp in the dark toward an ideal… and practice, practice, practice!

Good emotional health is learned behavior, just as bad emotions are often emulated. Sometimes people grow up with a set of parents who are not ideal, or people in our lives that influence us in a negative way, or even abuse us. This could be a friend, neighbor, uncle or aunt, or other relative… even ourselves. We might have even had the best of parents, and yet they can still be guaranteed to be imperfect, simply because we are all human.

I caught myself, as an adult, automatically reacting like one parent had always done, and not even realizing before that, that I had been doing it my entire life. Awareness is the first step to realizing you can change… and probably should. Emotional health is ever-growing into that awareness… self-awareness.

Emotional health and pointing the finger

Perhaps you have heard, or even said, this quote: “It takes two to argue.”

But the reality is that it takes two (or more) for just about any social circumstance to turn sour. Often we try to point the finger and blame the other guy. Rarely does someone grab their hand and turn that finger around to themselves. What?! Take personal responsibility for the part we play in our fights or arguments with other? Balderdash!

Yes, part of emotional maturity includes taking control of ourselves, instead of trying to control others or our situation (some things you simply cannot control), is really the key. The old Bible verse from my childhood even pops into my head at this moment: “A soft answer turneth away wrath” (Proverbs 15:1, KJV). Another way of saying it is, a kind heart and words invite softer reactions out of others.

If we react properly FIRST (a sign of advanced emotional health rather than acting out of immaturity) and let others be responsible for how they react, then the situation actually has a higher chance of finding a solution, or at least lowering the chance of an issue escalating into a bigger problem.

Contention between yourself and others can be remedied by emotional health practices. Here are a few tips…

Emotional health tip #1
Distance yourself so you can see the situation more clearly

Emotional health tip #2
Detach from the outcome—do not hold on to expectations

Emotional health tip #3
Loving yourself allows you to be more forgiving towards others

Emotional health tip #4
Calling someone names is a merely a reflection of yourself (projection)

Emotional health tip #5
Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it

Emotional health tip #6
It is better to be alone than in bad company (the same goes for your opponent)

Lastly, if you choose to inspire yourself with more tips and quotes that can help change how you think, and motivate you to change the way you react, then here is an excellent compilation called 60 Quotes that Will Change the Way You Think. And kudos to you for improving your emotional health!

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